I told you about the $36. I never told you what happened after

In this issue: I told you about the $36 in my bank account.

The borrowed suit with the tags still on. The rooftop dance. Derek shouting "you idiot, call her back!"

But today I want to tell you the part I left out.

The year and a half that followed was brutal.

I walked into Microsoft with a high school diploma in a room full of people with MBAs and decades of corporate experience. I didn't know half the words they were using. I smiled, nodded, and went home to Google everything.

I was terrified someone was going to figure out I didn't belong there.

Then my manager called me in and told me the team felt I wasn't adding enough value.

He wouldn't tell me who said it. He wouldn't tell me what specifically they meant.

I was furious. I thought about quitting on the spot.

But here's what I did instead:

I went to every single team member — one by one — and asked them directly. No HR. No manager as buffer. Just me, asking the questions he wouldn't answer.

Was it uncomfortable? Absolutely.

Did I get the truth? Yes.

And once I knew what the real problem was, I could actually fix it.

You cannot solve for what you refuse to face.

Our team won President's Club.

Doors opened. Bigger roles. More responsibility. A lot more than $36 in my account.

But the external win wasn't the real shift.

The real shift was quieter than that.

I went back to school — not because someone told me to, but because I needed to close the gap in my own self-acceptance. The degree wasn't the point. Proving to myself that I belonged was the point.

That's the thing nobody tells you about impostor syndrome:

The evidence doesn't fix it. You have to do the inner work to fix it.

I talk to leaders every week who are sitting exactly where I was.

They're in the room. They're performing confidence they don't feel. They're waiting for someone to hand them permission to belong.

And when the feedback comes — from a manager, from a peer, from their own quiet doubt at 2am — they either shrink or they go silent.

Very few of them do what actually works: get specific, face it directly, fix the right problem.

The question isn't whether you belong. You're already in the room.

The question is: what are you refusing to face that's keeping you from owning it?

→ Wondering which part of you is sabotaging the room? I use a specific assessment with my clients that identifies exactly what's getting in the way — and it's not what most people expect.

Reply "ASSESS" and I'll send you the private link.

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